He thought it would be nice.

03 Jan 2012 3 Comments

by Zoe in Marriage Tags: happy hubby, love languages, marriage improvement

Today hubby & I went on a lunch date.  His idea.  Yep!  Nothing fancy but anytime we go somewhere and it’s just the 2 of us, we call it a date:) It doesn’t happen very often!  (The kids went back to school today.)  He was getting ready to go for tractor parts (of course) and I was on a work call.  He kept pacing in the office waiting for me to get off the phone.  When I got off the phone he started talking about how he thought it would be nice if we went to Subway for lunch.  But then he decided we should just eat what’s in the fridge and save some money.  He told me in detail what he was going to eat when he got back from the store.  I was dressed but had not ‘done my face’ as my grandmother would say.  Or my hair.  And he was babbling on about leftovers so it wasn’t an issue anyway.  He left for the store.

And then it hit me.  My hubby had (kinda) planned a date for us!   He NEVER does that so when I realized it, I felt horrible!  I wished I had jumped for joy and went with him. (Even though he is the one who decided against it.)  But this was huge so I couldn’t let it go.  The fact that he even had those thoughts is wonderful.

So I text him.  “Awe! I’ll go to Subway w u!  That’s nice. Come back?”

And I went into the bathroom to put my contacts in and do my face.  I heard the front door open and I peeked around the corner.  He just smiled and sat down on the bench by the door to wait.

So we went to Subway for lunch.

He laughed about my text and told me he had thought of going to lunch that morning.  He thought it would be nice.  He thought I would like that. 

Yep, I liked it.

As I’ve said before, my main love language is Words of Affirmation.  His is Quality Time.  This was quality time I could give to him.  I still don’t get very many Words of Affirmation.  BUT.  The words he has been using in general are so much kinder than they used to be.  That’ll work :)