Does your husband know about your blog?

All right ladies, fess up.

My answer?  NO WAY!

I started this blog when our marriage was at it’s worst.  He knows nothing about it.  I work on the computer so he just assumes I’m working when I’m blogging.  Or goofing off on ebay or facebook maybe.

I think I am starting to feel guilty about it.   And sometimes I want to scream that if he would just read my blog he would understand me a lot better!  ha.  I doubt he would read it anyway.  Occasionally I write him emails but he has never replied to one.  I have written him notes / letters in the past when I was having trouble explaining myself to him or we were both too angry to talk to each other without yelling.  He hates reading them.  He would roll his eyes and say “Now what?”  So I doubt he would want to read this anyway.  Well, I take that back.  If you consider the fact that a lot of this blog is about him – he would probably be very interested.  And very pissed.  He hates anyone knowing his business.  Not sure that it would make any difference that none of you know us personally.  I think he would be mad beyond words.  And let’s face it, I would not want him to read everything I have written here anyway.  Oh no.

“Sometimes not telling something is the same as lying”

I have warned my kids about this in the past.

So I am a liar.

I am not proud.


4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Trish
    Apr 20, 2011 @ 20:25:54

    I would not feel guilty about your blog. It’s really just your diary that you allow strangers to read.


  2. toughwords
    Apr 21, 2011 @ 11:26:55

    Read this article this morning called “On Being Anonymous” This is exactly what I’m talking about. I like being anonymous to the world. Just not feeling good about hiding it from hubby. Cuz yea, that’s what I’m doing – hiding it.
    Here is the link –


  3. Laura
    Apr 21, 2011 @ 15:16:03

    My husband has no idea. He would flip his lid if he found out for the same reasons that you mentioned your husband would. You know, frankly, there is stuff on the computer that he does that I don’t really know about so I figure we’re even. He has his porn and I have my blog. Both are things we keep to ourselves and both are things the other spouse doesn’t or wouldn’t approve of. Ok, I know my justifications here still don’t make it right. It is still a lie by omission, but the reality is my blog helps me keep my sanity while married to him so I no longer feel particularly guilty about it. I did at first. Not now. I need it for my own mental health and sense of wellbeing. My two cents.


  4. thisbrokenhearthashope
    Apr 21, 2011 @ 15:19:56

    You shouldn’t feel guilty at all. We have no clue who your husband really is. I’m of the mindset that everyone needs an outlet whether it be a blog, your best friend, or your dog. As long as the outlet isn’t someone who also really cares about your husband, then there is no need to feel guilty. Stay true to yourself on this blog.


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