Dear Hubby: Wear Your Ring

Dear Hubby,

I want you to wear your wedding ring.

I understand that you don’t want to wear it at work.  But you can wear it when you aren’t there.  You can remember to take your wallet out of your pocket when you come home and change. You can remember to take your phone with you when you leave the house.  You can remember to brush your teeth everyday.  You can remember your chew.  You can remember everything I ever did wrong.

Seems like it’d be pretty easy to remember to put your ring on when you come home from work, and take it off before going to work.

Seems like it ought to be important enough to remember.

Sincerely,
Z

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This actually hasn’t been a big issue for us.  He hasn’t worn it in years.  Only occasionally if I bug him about it.

He did wear it when we first got married.  He is a welder.  And they aren’t supposed to wear any jewelry on the job.  Well he did anyway and oh my.  His ring actually got hot and kinda melted into his finger.  It was so gross!  He still has the scar from that.  So of course I don’t want him to wear it to work.  But he’s not always at work now is he?  Wonder if he even knows where his ring is?!

Yesterday I took my ring to the jewelers and had it cleaned and the prongs checked.  I am supposed to do this yearly.  It’s probably been about 3.  I did lose one of the small diamonds on my wrap many years ago.  It fell out.  That’s when they told me I should have them clean it and check it every year.  And they don’t even charge me anything :)

That’s what made me think about it again.  I’ve got all these thoughts flying around in my head about what I want from this relationship. I have no idea what I want anymore.  It’s such a roller coaster ride.

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2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Trish
    Mar 02, 2012 @ 23:19:59

    I have never understood why it’s “okay” for a guy not to wear his wedding ring, but if a married woman doesn’t wear hers, well well well! It shouldn’t be that way. Guys should be expected to wear theirs too!

    Reply

  2. Zoe
    Mar 04, 2012 @ 00:49:55

    Amen Trish! Nice to hear from you again :)

    Reply

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This blog is my personal journal. I am trying hard to save my marriage. No, I am trying to build a great marriage. In case you haven't heard, marriage is HARD!
I am fighting back against anxiety & panic attacks. This is year 5 of this adventure. I am also codependent. I am an ACOA. Fun, Fun. I am trying hard to become a better me.
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