Attention to the Details

Him:  It’s funny.  I just have to laugh every morning when I get home to check the fire.  I can’t wait to see how you have the pliers jammed in there. 

Me:  What?

Him:  You don’t pay attention to details like that – it makes me laugh.  They’re always different.  Like you just jam them in there and walk away.  Maybe you’re still half asleep when you go out in the morning.


He has really made some progress.  He is not nearly as mean and irritated at the world as he used to be.  He still has those days of course, but it’s not every day anymore.  And he was constantly annoyed at me before.  I mean about everything!  He didn’t like the way I cut lettuce, I didn’t do this right or that right or whatever.  Heck, I didn’t even close the refrigerator door correctly for a while there!

This man.  He thought it was a cute quirk about me that I “don’t pay attention to details like that”.

Did you get that??  This is great coming from him!

Before this would have been ammunition for him.  Now he laughed, smiled, and enjoyed that I close the furnace door weirdly.  And he said that to me even!  This man made nice conversation and told me something about me that made him smile.

I feel I should explain.  The latch on the door of our outside furnace broke and his temporary solution involves pliers.  To get it closed tightly, you have to really push on the handle to be able to jam the pliers in there.  And really, I do know I’m not putting them in there very well.  It’s really hard to get it shut the way he wants it and at 5:30 in the morning, I really don’t care.  I figure he’ll be there soon, so I don’t worry about it.

I didn’t tell him all that.  I just smiled and was happy to see him smiling back at me.


2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Barbara
    Apr 07, 2013 @ 00:25:25

    And this is the reason we keep doing what we are doing. xo


  2. Zoe
    Apr 07, 2013 @ 12:33:28

    You are right Barbara! :)


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